There is no number you need to match
Thuisarts explains that desire varies and there is no universal amount that counts as normal. A lower or higher libido does not make someone a better partner. Wanting different things is a reason to understand each other, not to decide whose needs are wrong.
For dating, a useful question is whether you can talk openly about those wishes and respect each other’s boundaries. Frequency can be one part of that conversation. What intimacy means to you, how you like to show affection and what helps you feel comfortable also deserve space.
How Libimatch uses private answers
Our short questionnaire asks about desire, frequency and intimacy preferences. Every question has a skip option. Answers help prioritise suggestions alongside ordinary dating preferences; they are not displayed on your profile and other members cannot filter people by those intimate answers.
There is no public compatibility percentage or label revealing your libido. Changes to intimate answers take time to affect matching, which helps limit repeated changes being used to guess another person’s preferences. These protections reduce exposure; they cannot promise that nobody will ever infer anything from an interaction.
Have a conversation, at your own pace
You might begin with “What makes you feel close to someone?” or “How do you like to talk about boundaries?” A thoughtful answer can tell you something different from a checklist. You decide when a conversation feels welcome, and you can say that you would rather leave a topic for later.
A similar answer is never permission for intimacy. Each person can change their mind, including after flirting, matching or arranging a date. The point of considering libido is to create room for honest expectations, while leaving the choices about your own body with you.
Compatibility is bigger than libido
Affection, communication, values, attraction and everyday life still matter. Libimatch offers introductions informed by preferences. It does not diagnose desire, predict relationship success or guarantee that two people will want the same things in the future.
Some people describe an upsetting lack of intimacy as a “dead bedroom”. That phrase is not a diagnosis, and a dating app cannot resolve difficulties within an existing relationship. If changes in desire concern you, Thuisarts offers information and suggests talking with your GP when you need help.
Good to know.
Can a dating app match people by libido?
Libimatch uses optional answers about desire and intimacy to help order profile suggestions. This is a matching approach, not a clinical assessment. Meeting and talking still determine whether a connection works for you.
Will my match see my answers?
No. Intimate questionnaire answers and internal matching scores are kept off member profiles. You decide what to share in conversation, and you can skip any question.
Do two people need the same sex drive?
There is no single rule for every couple. The aim is to understand each other’s wishes and boundaries. Similar preferences alone do not establish consent or guarantee a happy relationship.